IT’S YOU WHO DEFINES YOURSELF, EVEN IF YOU ARE JUDGED BY OTHERS

Can We Just Stop Judging People? Can We Normalize Everything A Human Is Or Wants To Be? 

We Surely Can. 


For that, we need to do just 2 things: first is to try to adapt to / accept current situations or environment and second, is just considering others’ point of view or understand things with a different perspective. 

Many a times people around us are misjudged about their style, character, gender, personality, sexuality, religion and the list go on. But my question is: Why judge someone we barely even know? Also, if you are judging someone you give yourself an authority; why, who the hell are you? 

I feel judging someone on the things I have mentioned above, is just being very insensitive and demotivating. So personally, when I was at my school level I use to judge people on what they wear but as I got older and understood that; ‘it’s our choice to do / wear anything we like and the opposite person is no one to judge you’. Then I asked myself self: I am not even friends with them I don’t know them, then why am I talking about them, sorry… not just talking but Judging them? 

This question hit me hard and for that moment my heart was heavy with guilt in it (I may sound like a hypocrite, but trust me it was almost like 5 years ago). 

I also feel these things are better understood with maturity and knowledge about different types of people around you. Lastly, I want to conclude by saying that ” it’s you who defines yourself even if you are judged by others.” Even if you are subjected to judgement, don’t ever go back and try to defend yourself (unless that person is someone important to you) because you didn’t ask them for their unnecessary opinions, right? So, forget about it! 


I would like to spread a message to everyone reading this: please be non-judgmental and empathetic towards others… because if you think good, you feel good! 😊

  • Surbhi Surwade, SYJC Arts Student at CLAY

One response to “IT’S YOU WHO DEFINES YOURSELF, EVEN IF YOU ARE JUDGED BY OTHERS”

  1. Well written Surbhi!
    Your honesty of expressing that you also did it once and later understood …it is great!
    Wonderful message to follow!

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